Graphic: You Control Your Success

I find that people forget that they are the ones that control their success. Lately, I have seen quite a few people that blog, social media consult, or have some business online that they are not happy with. Often, they blame it on one thing or another.

However, you control your success. If you decide to quite your day job and take up blogging, and expect an immediate return on investment…. you are delusional. You chose to do it. Failure definitely happens, but your reaction and action is key to whether you have the gumption to succeed.

You cannot expect things to happen for you. That is a gamble that could cost you money, and maybe your reputation. Those who succeed take an active role in their path to success. They are learning, and making the decisions to achieve each goal.

So I ask you to do away with whining, the blame game, and excuses, and to take control of your success. Do not let others plan your path to success even if they are good at what they do. Your path may not be the exact one they can perfectly construct. Instead, get involved by asking questions and being up front about what you want. And… if you do not… go back to the drawing board or you could find failure sooner than you think.

I put together a short graphic meme to illustrate my point.

you control your success

Comments

  1. says

    Nice message. I like that fact that we are born to succeed. In fact, what’s happening is that, we are fed with fear and negativity from the day we are born that accumulates to such an extent that we are unable to do what we are capable off. Like the message.
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    • says

      Hi Shalu! We are really not born to succeed. We are born with the potential to succeed depending on our choices. Thank you for stopping by! *hugs*

    • says

      You can’t succeed if you don’t try! and you have to fail in order to learn from your mistakes!

      I think people could learn a lot from this post, some people think you create your own luck, it’s the same with success!

      Darcie

    • says

      Hi Tanya! You are correct. Success does not happen that quickly, and it is hard work… far from being glamorous as some people believe the road to success may be in some niches.

  2. Elissa Uber says

    Hi i would like to say success in not impossible if do the hard work.Its in your way.Some people do nothing and want to get success in any way but that is not possible to get without any struggle.

  3. says

    I immediately picked up on the blame game because I was coaching a client yesterday on it. It was difficult at first helping her to see how she has been unknowingly sabotaging herself and accepting the undesirable role of a victim. When she blamed others, she was passing responsibility for her life on to others.

    Blaming someone else feeds our ego and gives us the righteous feeling that we are okay and it is the other person who screwed up our life. Unfortunately, this thinking keeps us as victim and powerless to make any positive changes. Blaming others might feed our ego in the beginning, but it has dangerous side affects.
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  4. says

    Hey Nile,

    Yep, right on sites and blogs take sometimes years before they start generating any good income. A lot of people get real motivated write a ton and don’t see results. Don’t get any traffic or quit. I say ok you made 15 dollars a month lets get that number up a little. It’s a real job and there is no way to do it longterm without actually working at it. My mentality when I first started 4 years ago was make $1 this month. Then next month at least $2. Overtime it has greatly increased, but it was tough in the beginning!
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  5. says

    Nile, tahnks for reminding us that we were born to succeed… love it:-)
    “So I ask you to do away with whining, the blame game, and excuses, and to take control of your success” THAT is PERFECT for where I stand now… I AM A SUCCESS.
    tahnks so much for all yoru encouragement and hope you are on top of it for yoru own success..
    nickc
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  6. says

    Im so glad you said this. I don’t know how many people i know who think that “if this person just showed me this or gave me that ill be good”. It doesn’t work that way, go out and get it. If you are not willing to work hard for your success and happiness then you will never know what it is.

  7. says

    I started blogging as an editor for my friends site for money while I was studying. I quickly fell in love with it and when I finished my studies, much to my parents dismay, decided to try and make my own successful blog. I have now been in the game for 2 years and can say if you are looking for an easy way to make money, blogging is not it. If you don’t have the passion and really want to achieve it, you most likely never will. It’s a lot of work and my site 0 which is a year old now – is far from a full time wage.
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  8. says

    This is a great reminder to stop the “blame game”. Who has more control over your life and what you do with it than you do? We are not victims. We are in piloting this aircraft. As long as we thing someone else is responsible for our successes or failures, we cannot truly make the changes and achieve the results we want. Thanks for the reminder.
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  9. says

    Nile,

    It seems that you are a bit ticked off at people who blame others for their lack of success. Your message is clear and to the point for sure, but I sense something behind your words.

    Don’t let those people get to you. You and I can help those who want to be helped and the others we must let go. For a long time I wanted to help every stray cat that came by because I knew I could. Some just don’t want to take the help and that is their path and their choice.

    We must all be grateful for the lessons we are willing to learn and… wait for it… ready?… here it is… APPLY!

    Happy New Year!

    RICK
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  10. says

    Lovely post…I left my job two years ago and I couldn´t be more happier now. I don´t earn that much but I feel like I´m responsible for my own decisions, for my life and nobody can control me. Suddenly I can organize my time which was something unachievable when I was employed.

  11. says

    Its all about passion. You just need to discover yours and engage yourself in doing that. Similarly if blogging is your thing, no matter how much failure comes your way you will succeed someday.

  12. says

    Hi Nile,

    Great message today. What silly sausages have been thinking they can quite there day jobs just like that. Blogging in particular is a long term . I love the journey and the relationships that come with blogging, but it certainly take a lot of time and there is a lot to learn. Certainly more than just writing words on a page.

    Thanks for sharing,

    Beth :)
    Beth Hewitt recently posted..Blogging for Leads or NOT?My Profile

  13. says

    Blogging in particular is a long term . I love the journey and the relationships that come with blogging, but it certainly take a lot of time and there is a lot to learn. Certainly more than just writing words on a page. thank you.

  14. says

    Hi Nile,

    I am glad that I arrived at your blog! Although we are in different industries, I totally agree with you about success.

    We all have the potential to succeed (in whatever we choose to focus on). Are we exercising our choose wisely? Or, are we crippled by fear or other excuses?

    Life is tot precious to be wasted. Decide what is meaningful and reach for that full potential.

    Thanks, Nile :)

    Viola The Business Mum
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  15. says

    Insightful. This is a very appropriate message for blogging as well, you can”t just churn out a blog, invest no time and/or money in it and expect it to just take off.

    • says

      Hi Christy! Just go back to what your site focus is and brainstorm whether you need to adjust it. Often, people veer away from their core plan and sometimes forget that they can get back on target. You might have to add or remove some goals in your focus. Good luck!

  16. says

    Hi Nile, nicely said there and I really agree.. All too often I hear people complaining that they’re not getting traffic, or the results they want, or Google isn’t giving them good SERPs but you sum it up perfectly. To have any sort of success online one has to embrace the grind and do so in the most intelligent way they can.

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